Family Disenchantment.......we all have some.

There seems to be some of this going around. Most of us haven't seen or spoken to each other in at least 10 years or more, and as the saying goes, people change. Who you where then, is not who you are now. The same applies to everyone else! Please don't assume that someone is (if they are so what). Come see and experience it for yourself, or don't.

What ever your hurts, slights, or gossip said, real or not. I hope that you can come and maybe put it aside for a few hours, just maybe you can make that connection again to be able to work out the difference or agree to disagree and move forward to a new relationship (or not). Some of you spent a lot of your childhood and early adulthood together, lots of the "old timers" have lost there parents and as goes when a loved one has passed, it ends up causing more hurt feelings and accusations of wrong doing and treatment.

All this is just MASSIVE JUDGMENTS, regardless of who, what, when, where and why!! No body has their LIFE totally together, life happens. It comes with the good, bad, mistakes and failures, Joys, success etc.We are all human. It is sad to think that your better or what ever than someone else because of your zip code, job, friends, name brand clothes your kids wear. Because the reality is, it's really about kindness, raising good a decent kids, helping someone who is down and not stepping on them. Or helping them but wanting something in return.

Everyone of us is a "black sheep" in one way or another/at one time or another. Who are you to JUDGE anyone???? If that's how you feel, that is how you feel. Hold that hurt and resentment close, does it change anything? Who are you really hurting? That family member? Me? I assure you, after the stuff I have been through in the last 2 years (of my choice), YOU ARE NOT! And I can damn near bet you are not hurting the person it is aimed at either. You are only wasting your own energy while that person is skipping down the street.

I plan to be at that reunion regardless if 100 people show up or just 2 people show up. We will have a great time regardless and will toast those who chose not too. You will be missed and thought of, but the good times will go on. Sometimes families move apart or journey a separate road, then there is the times where the roads merge, can we extend some kindness to each other to let family in the lane?

I am by no means saying that what your felling is not valid for you, but what hurt and wrongs have you done to those you love?? Maybe if we all take a little responsibility for our own actions in the problem, we would be less like to judge others. In closing, we all need to grow up and get over ourselves and the pettiness!!
I hope to see you there! Brightest Blessings ~Brandy *)O(*

Pettiness Prayer
Keep us, oh God, from pettiness.
Let us be large in thought, in word, in deed.
Let us be done with fault finding & leave off self-seeking.
May we put away all pettiness & meet each other face to face,
without self-pity & without prejudice.
May we always be patient,
never hasty in judgment & always tolerant.
Teach us to put into action our better impulses,
straightforward & unafraid.
Let us take time for all things; make us calm, serene & gentle.
Grant that we may realize it is the little things
in life that create differences,
That in the big things of life we are as one and
may we strive to touch and to know the great common heart of us all.
And oh God, let us not forget to be kind.